My husband seriously loves Oreos. Poor guy… He used to ask me to buy Oreos every time I went to the grocery store. That would be his one little request (and maybe Goldfish crackers because he loves those, too). Then there came a point early in our marriage, when I started to become a little more obsessed with “eating healthy” and “getting fit,” that I refused to buy him the Oreos.
Here’s why: I’m the one that’s at home most of the day. My husband is actually not home that much. In my mind, I could picture what would be the consequence of me buying Oreos– said Oreos would taunt me at home all day. I would use a lot of willpower to say no to those Oreos because they are “bad” foods in my mind. Then sometime in the afternoon my willpower would give up and I’d eat at least 3 servings of Oreos in one sitting, whereas my husband would come home a few hours later and forget they were even there. This would continue every day until the end of the week when the Oreos are gone, I’ve eaten all of them, and my husband, who requested the Oreos, would actually have eaten 0 of them.
That’s why I never bought Oreos: They are “bad” food and we keep them out so that I can be super disciplined and healthy and feel awesome about myself.
Well, my mindset has shifted a bit and guess what? This week, I bought the Oreos. I had this thought- am I actually doing myself a disservice by completely avoiding purchasing things like Oreos or Goldfish or ice cream? Is it really helping me learn to form healthy habits, make healthy choices, and to learn self- control? Is it feeding the fear of certain foods in me rather than helping me get over that fear?
Imagine this– You decide you never want your child to get sick, so from the time they are a baby they are not allowed to go to any public place, or outside in the backyard, or ever really leave the house. People can’t touch your child and eventually you form a nice little plastic bubble around them just to make sure they are protected (Bubble Boy, anyone?). Sure, your child may never get sick, but then in one moment where they may be exposed to a germ of some kind, their immune system is so weak that it ends up being worse than it has to. Plus, who wants to live life in a bubble?
Here’s a clue- stop living in the bubble. Exposing yourself is the only way to teach yourself how to respond & choose well.
I found that never allowing myself to have certain foods around me in the house actually gave power to those foods in my life. Since I never am around Oreos, I actually have no self control around them and instead, when I’m at a party or someone offers one to me, I suddenly binge and go all out because I feel like it has to be all or nothing. The Oreos have the power. The Oreos (or cake or ice cream or pizza) should not have the power.
So here’s the deal- let’s just chill out a little bit about eating healthy, okay? Do the hard things and learn self control & being mindful when we eat, rather than just being really black & white, restrictive, all-or-nothing. Let’s learn how to have a little bit of dark chocolate without feeling like you have to have all the chocolate. Let’s learn how to keep Oreos in our house and eat some every now and then without feeling awful about ourselves. Buy your favorite foods and learn to make them last. Yeah? Yeah!
It’s almost summer which means- grilling time! I made up this recipe at my parents’ house last weekend and everyone seemed to enjoy it! I love the citrusy hints with an essence of curry and cilantro. This is a good marinade go-to whether you’re grilling chicken, baking, or pan-frying! Enjoy!
Grapefruit Grilled Chicken Marinade
Makes about 2 lbs chicken
- Juice from 2 grapefruits
- Juice from 1 lime
- 1/3 cup olive oil
- 1/4 cup apple cider vinegar
- 1/3 cup finely chopped white onion
- 1/3 cup finely chopped cilantro
- Salt & Pepper
- 1 tsp chili powder
- 1 tsp curry powder
- 2 lbs chicken breast
- Whisk all marinade ingredients in a large bowl until well incorporated. Add chicken and let sit for an hour or so.
- Grill or bake the chicken to your desire, using a silicon/cooking brush to occasionally brush remaining marinade on the chicken as it cooks (especially if you are grilling the chicken, to prevent it from drying out).