Today I want to talk about something dear to my heart. Something that I have been trying to express & put into words for so long. I don’t know why I have never really tried before- I am not that great of a writer, so the task of putting my heart into something so confining as words seemed daunting. But today, I want to try to attempt it. Because it’s worth it.
The other day, I met up with my first personal training client. We met for an initial interview/goal assessment so I could see where she was not only physically but emotionally. It’s important for me to see how ready a client is to take on an exercise program, their previous experiences with exercise, and their overall attitude about their own health and fitness.
The general feeling this new client had about taking on an exercise program was that she felt vulnerable. She has never felt comfortable opening up to people about her personal health and fitness. She even told me she would rather share her deepest darkest sins with someone than share with them her struggles with being healthy. Here I was with a beautiful, confident, secure woman, who cringed at the idea of allowing this area of her life be exposed.
I left very impacted. I have heard that this is a common struggle and something that I deal with myself on occasion, but I just didn’t realize how real, ugly, and mean this mentality is to us as women. The fact that fitness and health equates to shame, hurt, not measuring up or being good enough…it is paralyzing us from reaching our greatest potential.
I say that it’s time to stop playing the shame game with our health & fitness journeys, and start walking in openness, freedom, and vulnerability. It’s not easy, it’s not safe, but it’s how we experience transformation…from the inside out. I’m sick of topics such as working out, self-confidence, and eating issues being “taboo” amongst women today. It is something that we should talk about like we do our jobs, our families, & our hobbies, not something that we hide from in shame.
So today, I’m not hiding behind my shame. I’m imperfect and I know it. My own health journey has been messy & not how I would have ever pictured it to be, but it’s my journey that I’m still on, and I’m proud of it because it has played a part in making me who I am today. Some days I feel confident, strong, and beautiful, but on some days, I feel weak, unmotivated, and beyond change. Some days I eat to fuel my body and to enjoy life with family and friends, but on some days I eat when I’m stressed or don’t have the best in mind for my body. Some days I see myself and think I’m beautiful, but some days I have to remind myself because I don’t necessarily feel that way.
Relate to any of that? YOU ARE NOT ALONE! The biggest lie we can give into is that we are alone in the things we feel about ourselves and our journeys. This lie is what can also hold us back the most. Today let’s choose progress over perfection, openness over insecurity, and love over shame…and keep trucking on despite those “some days” where we feel the worst. I think this is where we will see the most transformation where it counts!
5-Ingredient Coconut Cashew Tilapia
Makes 3 tilapia filets
- 1/2 cup cashews
- 1/2 cup coconut chips
- 1/2 tbsp cinnamon
- 1 egg white
- 3 tilapia filets
- Preheat oven to 375 degrees.
- Place cashews, coconut chips, and cinnamon in a food processor and pulse until it is ground up almost into a flour.
- Place cashew coconut mixture in a wide-rimmed bowl, and place egg white in a separate wide-rimmed bowl.
- Place foil on a baking sheet and lightly spray with cooking spray.
- One by one, place tilapia filet into the egg white wash until it’s covered, then place in cashew coconut meal and cover filet with ground cashew & coconut with a fork. Place filet on baking sheet.
- Once each filet is covered, place in oven for 15 minutes.
- Remove from oven and let cool. Enjoy!!